It’s something that we hear said often, but it’s so true. Times really have changed, and that’s true in pretty much all areas of life, including the dating scene. Over the last few decades, advances in technology and more modern ways of thinking have meant that dating has changed dramatically. Most of those changes are real positives, so it’s something we should embrace.
If you’re in your 40s and 50s, and new to the dating scene, you might feel a little overwhelmed at how much times have changed. There could be any number of reasons why you’re just starting to date again, but the chances are that you’re feeling a little nervous about the whole thing. Fear not, we’re here to guide you through the main changes and help you build your confidence back up.
The last couple of decades has seen some big changes in the world as a whole. Many of these changes have had a direct impact on the dating world.
Twenty years ago, the internet wasn’t such a huge thing as it is now. Yes, many homes would have the internet, but it was very slow and pretty cumbersome. We’d maybe use messenger to contact our friends and that would be about it.
These days, we all have really fast internet at our fingertips. It’s a wonderful thing! It means that we have access to pretty much anything we need.
For dating, advances in technology have meant big changes. These days, there are a whole host of websites available. When you’re looking to meet new people, you can quickly access a dating site and start to browse hundreds of profiles in an instant.
One of the biggest attractions with online dating is that it’s a great way to ease yourself back into the dating world when you’ve been out of it for a while. You can really take your time, browsing profiles and chatting to people, before jumping in at the deep end. This is perfect for those lacking confidence or unsure if dating is for them.
Alongside dating sites, there are numerous dating apps which make it even easier for you to meet people.
You needn’t think that these sites are purely for the younger generation either. Many websites such as older-dating.com are set up specifically for those over 40, so they’re perfect if you’re at that stage in your life.
Freedom of expression
When you were growing up, your parents may well have had very traditional views on relationships and marriage. That’s just how things were. You were probably expected to meet a member of the opposite sex, get engaged, get married, and then have children.
Thankfully, things have changed a lot over recent years. Now, it’s far more common to have a real variety of family set ups. Single parents are far more common, as we no longer stick it out in unhappy relationships as much as we used to.
Same sex relationships are now far more widely accepted too. So if you’ve spent a few years hiding in the closet, then you might now feel far more confident about being open about who you are.
There’s far more emphasis now on doing what makes us feel happy, which is so important.
Old fashioned values to take some shifting when they’ve been instilled in you since birth, but it’s great to see things moving in the right direction.
More free time
One of the things that the over 40s and 50s often benefit from is more time on their hands. Their children have grown to an age where they don’t need constant supervision, and they have more time to spend focusing on their own needs. This is often why people start to date again at this age. In many ways, it really is the perfect time to start again.
It’s so important to recognise your own needs, especially when you’re juggling many things in your everyday life.
If you’re venturing back into the dating world, then you’ll probably find it all a little daunting at first. But it really is so much easier these days than it ever has been before. Give yourself time, and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you’re unsure. You never know, you could be about to start a big adventure and meet somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Do you have any top tips for dating in your forties and fifties? We would love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
*This is a collaborative post.